We Don’t Want Flowers for Mother’s Day
Hello Friends!
I've been wanting to set up this note for a long time. If you're on this list, you already know Easy Living Collective in some way; maybe we've worked together, or a friend passed my name along, or maybe something on my website just landed for you. However you got here, I'm really glad you're here.
Today I'm finally doing something I've been building toward: launching the Easy Living Collective Newsletter! This is a free monthly letter chock-full of ideas, frameworks, and techniques to help you understand and manage mental load. What does mental load look like in daily? What does it cost you? And what might it look like to put some of it down?
Once a month. Research-backed. Practical (not preachy). Just honest, useful things I've learned from working with real women, digging into the research, and (let's be honest) living it myself. This is the next evolution of Easy Living Collective, and I'm so excited to share it with you.
But first, I have to tell you what happened when I asked a small group of amazing Moms what they really wanted for Mother’s Day this year. And guess what? It wasn’t flowers, or brunch, or jewelry. Nope. Not even close.
Mother’s want relief, and to feel seen and understood on Mother’s Day more than anything else.
Here are just some of the things I heard from moms who were willing to give it to me straight!
"I just want peace and happiness for ONE DAY. I usually proclaim that the kids can't fight or complain or argue (and if they really need to, they do it with their dad, away from me so I can't hear it)."
"I realize a weekend of not doing laundry just means it piles up for me later. So I'm thinking having the chores done for me would be a blessing. And honestly, a day with all of us together is a dream."
"To sleep in and not feel guilty about it. Like, when I get up, the kids are fed, the kitchen is tidy, the dog is walked, and there's something planned for the afternoon."
"A day of no cooking or cleaning and a thoughtful card."
"A meal prep service for a month, and a spa day."
"Homemade art I can frame. Or a handwritten letter. Something really thoughtful."
What moms are asking for isn't a gift in the traditional sense. It's a day of relief and recognition. A day where the mental load is understood by those we care for every day, and make us feel seen by handling some of it proactively, start to finish, so that we can actually be present without calculating what's falling apart in the background or what we need to “catch up” on when the celebration is over.
What we don’t want is a loan, whereby you take us to brunch but no one has planned what’s for dinner. We don’t want luxury items; we want peace and to enjoy time to ourselves or with family in a way that doesn’t produce overstimulation or overwhelm. What Moms really want is simple: just take it off my plate. All of it. For one day. And don't make me come home to consequences.
Forward these Mother’s Day insights to someone you know if celebrating planning a celebration for Mom this weekend.
If you want a Mother's Day that actually feels like rest, someone has to know what that means to you. So tell them. Specifically. Not "anything is fine." Not "don't make a big deal." Tell them what would actually fill your cup; whether that's sleeping in with a tidy kitchen waiting for you, a handmade card, a day trip with lunch already reserved, or just one day where you don't have to think about dinner. The incredible moms in my little survey were crystal clear when asked directly. Give the people who love you the chance to get it right. Honor yourself by using your voice in an authentic way, and see how much more you enjoy the day.
If you know a woman who needs this newsletter, forward this to her. She's probably the one holding everything together for everyone else right now. She might not even know she needs this. But you know she does!
Coming this summer! Managing the Mental Load Support Group. Sign up here to join (starting July 2026).
I'm launching a women's support group built entirely around the mental load. This will be a real space to be honest about what you're carrying, and together we will share practical tools for letting some of it go every week. To be with other women who just get it? It doesn’t get much better than that!
I'm kicking off a free 6-week pilot in July, and I'd love for you to be part of it. Your experience will help shape what this community becomes and what's actually most useful when it comes to living freer, happier lives. If you're in, just shoot me an email (sarah@geteasyliving.com) or fill out this form. I'll send you all the details. Keeping it intentionally small so everyone actually gets to talk.
Until next month, thank you for reading and be well!
~ Sarah
Easy Living Collective, LLC
sarah@geteasyliving.com | (818) 495-5735 | easylivingcollective.com
